Guest post: Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S, Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex
Every person possesses the quality of open-heartedness. The real test is to stretch into open-heartedness whenever you feel like isolating and shutting down. It’s so easy to close a heart, especially against a partner if not all humankind at times. Withholding love is called cold, open-heartedness is called warm, and it’s possible there is actual vital energy being shared.
Open your heart to yourself. Show yourself love even when you fall short or fail to be open, because certainly your shame, disappointment, regret, and expectation are not going to open that heart.
There’s a saying that anger is like picking up a burning ember to throw at someone — you get burned in the process. It’s the same with close-heartedness. You might close your heart to protect yourself from intimidating or hostile forces, and yet it’s one of the most detrimental things you can do — to close your heart. Closing your heart as a form of protection is a contradiction. The only protection in any challenging situation is to open your heart, to keep life alive and vital energy flowing inside you.
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