by Carolyn | Apr 4, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationships
“A boundary is simply what’s ok and what’s not ok.” — Brené Brown Every couple will negotiate boundaries: what is individual, what is ours, and what is public. The architecture of a relationship is made up of a web of rules and roles that we begin weaving on the first...
by Carolyn | Mar 15, 2016 | Expressing Love, Relationships
“When we first started dating, we partied and drank a lot. And when I drink, I don’t orgasm, so I got into the habit of faking it. We got married and I stopped pretending, but I never told him. And now, he can’t understand why I don’t orgasm in five minutes any...
by Carolyn | Sep 7, 2015 | Couples Therapy, Expressing Love, Expressions of Love, Forgiveness, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
Has a loved one ever hurt you and though they apologized, you weren’t able to put the offense behind you? Something about their apology was missing the mark. In their book, “The Five Languages of Apology” Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas found that “what one...
by Carolyn | Mar 23, 2015 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
No matter how good your communication skills, everyone experiences “emotional hijacking” when conflict affects their significant relationships. First Step for Emotion Regulation: ASSESS the elements of what is happening ACTION: Stop doing whatever...
by Carolyn | Jun 17, 2013 | Relationships, Uncategorized
1.Prioritize time together sharing one another’s hopes, dreams and longings. 2.Focus on the positive-5:1 Rule. Successful couples make five times as many positive statements to each negative. 3.Create bonding experiences by showing respect and consideration for...
by Carolyn | Apr 25, 2013 | Couples Therapy, Forgiveness, Infidelity, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
More than ninety percent of married individuals in the United States believed that monogamy is important but almost half of them admit to having had affairs. I work with couples who try to recover from infidelity, which is one of the most devastating traumatic and...
