by Carolyn | Jan 16, 2019 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy
Relationships are hard! In times of conflict, like when you hurt someone’s feelings or they hurt yours, emotions run high. When emotions are set-off, it revs us up. Our bodies react to triggered emotions by getting tense. We put up our guards and get defensive. Our...
by Carolyn | Apr 4, 2016 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Relationships
“A boundary is simply what’s ok and what’s not ok.” — Brené Brown Every couple will negotiate boundaries: what is individual, what is ours, and what is public. The architecture of a relationship is made up of a web of rules and roles that we begin weaving on the first...
by Carolyn | Sep 7, 2015 | Couples Therapy, Expressing Love, Expressions of Love, Forgiveness, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
Has a loved one ever hurt you and though they apologized, you weren’t able to put the offense behind you? Something about their apology was missing the mark. In their book, “The Five Languages of Apology” Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas found that “what one...
by Carolyn | Mar 23, 2015 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
No matter how good your communication skills, everyone experiences “emotional hijacking” when conflict affects their significant relationships. First Step for Emotion Regulation: ASSESS the elements of what is happening ACTION: Stop doing whatever...
by Carolyn | Apr 25, 2013 | Couples Therapy, Forgiveness, Infidelity, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
More than ninety percent of married individuals in the United States believed that monogamy is important but almost half of them admit to having had affairs. I work with couples who try to recover from infidelity, which is one of the most devastating traumatic and...
by Carolyn | Mar 10, 2013 | Conflict Resolution, Couples Therapy, Creating Change, Expressing Love, Learning to Communicate, Marriage Counseling, Relationships
In part 1 of Conflict: The Pathway to Intimacy, we learned how to identify negative patterns in our relationship and what we can do have more awareness of this destructive cycle. We are reminded to take a time out to think and go within go get clarity on what is...
