Relationships are hard! In times of conflict, like when you hurt someone’s feelings or they hurt yours, emotions run high. When emotions are set-off, it revs us up. Our bodies react to triggered emotions by getting tense. We put up our guards and get defensive. Our...
“A boundary is simply what’s ok and what’s not ok.” — Brené Brown Every couple will negotiate boundaries: what is individual, what is ours, and what is public. The architecture of a relationship is made up of a web of rules and roles that we begin weaving on the first...
No matter how good your communication skills, everyone experiences “emotional hijacking” when conflict affects their significant relationships. First Step for Emotion Regulation: ASSESS the elements of what is happening ACTION: Stop doing whatever...
In part 1 of Conflict: The Pathway to Intimacy, we learned how to identify negative patterns in our relationship and what we can do have more awareness of this destructive cycle. We are reminded to take a time out to think and go within go get clarity on what is...
Couples believe that when they are in love, marriage is about agreeing, about NOT fighting. They’re afraid that if they disagree, or fight, something must be wrong with their relationship. Conflict does not cause divorce. In actuality, the number one predictor of...
“Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world.” – Ed Hird, Author, Speaker, Minister Couples typically come in to...
