Relationship distress affects individuals so profoundly. It can affect every aspect of a person’s life mentally, physically, professionally and of course relationally.
Although communication and conflict resolution skills are helpful, during those devastating moments when couples find themselves helplessly deadlocked in the midst of a crisis, misunderstood and unable to move forward, those relational skills sorely miss the mark.
Since becoming trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and learning to view conflict from an attachment point of view it’s given me a perspective that makes perfect sense of why couples freak out when they feel rejected or dismissed by their lover and how their attempts for reconnection actually has the opposite effect from the desired result. EFT has given therapists the roadmap to helping couples in distress change their destructive interactional patterns and help them to carve new and lasting reparative conversations.
Developed in the early 1980’s by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT is one of the most empirically validated approach to couples therapy. It has been found that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and that 90% show significant improvements. For more information on EFT visit www.ICEEFT.com.