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Carolyn Gerard, MFT

You don’t need to struggle alone.

All couples experience conflict. Few, however, have learned to effectively work through conflict while honoring one another’s differences. I help couples make sense of the walking-on-eggshell feelings they experience when fights are unresolved and help them to restore a safe and loving bond.


As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist I help couples work through conflict in a way that enables each of them to put their defensive guard down and to listen to the real message behind their destructive fights. Often the cycle is represented with one person criticizing and blaming while their partner defends, withdraws and shuts down. This leaves both of them feeling misunderstood, uncared for and alone.

Together we can create a secure and loving bond to restore intimacy and passion in your relationship.

Licensed since 1985, I’ve been married 30+ years and raised five children, including twins. Now an empty nester myself, I understand the phases that couples go through in a long term relationship. 

I specialize in:

Couples in Crisis

Marriage Counseling

Premarital Counseling

PTSD, Abuse, Neglect, Trauma Treatment

Individual Counseling

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